How to Be Alone is the soon to be released book by Lane Moore. If you haven’t heard of her yet, I’m confident one day soon you will. Lane Moore is a comedian, musician, writer, and host of Tinder Live.
Though technically How to Be Alone is an autobiography, it’s more than that. Lane Moore’s book is touching, witty, and relatable. It discusses inadequacy, loneliness, longing for love, and finding your place in the world both on a personal and interpersonal level.
Told through 14 personal essays, Lane dives deep into her most personal thoughts and experiences. From practically raising herself, living in her car, making the ballsy move to NYC, and reconstructing her heart after a series of toxic relationships, she bares it all. To put it simply, this girl has been through some sh*t. But instead of letting that control the way she lives her life and sees the world, she uses humor, music, and writing to create a different picture.
How to Be Alone made me feel less alone. Like Lane, I have thoughts and feelings that I feel aren’t thought or felt by others. This is confirmed when I share these thoughts and feelings with others and there’s little to no response. Or worse, their response is to tell me to stop responding. To stop thinking and feeling so much. But, that’s not how I operate. And I can tell through the heart and soul spilled onto the pages of this book, that isn’t how Lane operates either. It’s validating to know that I’m not alone and there are other people on this planet operating on the same wavelength as mine. We are the people who overthink and over-feel. The people who embrace it instead of burying these thoughts and feelings like many people have told us to.
How to Be Alone is inspiring. It makes me want to be my uninhibited self, to feel all the feels, think all the thoughts, to LOVE love, and to not just dream the dreams but live them too. Lane Moore is very self-aware, maybe even painfully aware. But, in my opinion, this kind of awareness is a gift because it allows for immense growth. Her self-awareness is contagious too. It makes you stop and think about yourself. It’s interesting how people hitting you with their truths helps you discover truths of your own.
How to Be Alone is also incredibly funny. Lane’s conversational style of writing is full of wit and humor that feels like you’re reading the life story of an old friend. My favorite chapter from the book is “Am I the Last Hopeless Romantic on Earth?” because of how much it resonated with me. If Lane or any other self-declared hopeless romantics are reading this, I’d like to tell you that you are not the last hopeless romantic(s) on earth. And if you don’t want to, you no longer have to subscribe to the hopeless romantic terminology. Personally, I feel like that puts a dark cloud over all things love and romance. (That’s why I declared myself a hopeful romantic, and you can too.)
I could go on forever about how much I loved this book. How to Be Alone will stay with you long after you’ve read it. Once you read it, hopefully, you will realize that you’re never truly alone. Or even when you feel as if you are, maybe sometimes being alone isn’t the worst thing to be.
*I received an advanced reader’s copy of this book from a Goodreads Giveaway. However, all opinions are my own. I am also an Amazon affiliate & will receive a small commission if you go through my link.*