Someone in your past sold you a false story about who you are and what you’re worth. It has been holding you back for too long. Take control of your future.
A staggering one out of three women in America was a victim of sexual abuse at some point in her childhood. No matter how many years it’s been, if that’s your story, those scars are probably still with you. But even if that’s not part of your story, this book is for you. Women today have been groomed for a lot more than just sex.
Using her own story of abuse, family tragedy, and rebellion, Elizabeth Melendez Fisher guides readers toward an understanding that grooming is oftentimes subtle, but it’s always life-altering. In Groomed Fisher incorporates the language and lessons gained over the past decade working with sex trafficking victims and her work in ministry and counseling before that. She draws out five specific ways that women have been groomed, from physical appearance to spirituality to finances, and shows how those manipulative messages have affected the way we see our worth and how they’ve oftentimes stifled and limited us. From there Fisher offers readers a way to overcome their past, starting with the all-important but rarely explored idea of a selah, or a time of rest and reflection, and exploring active ways to forgive and move forward to a new level of freedom.
No one has to be defined by her past. No one has to live for her groomers. It’s time to take a look back at where we came from to escape the messages of our past and take control of our future.
‘In Groomed Elizabeth shares a raw, heart-wrenching story, digging deeply to save others–a vital education, a sad tale, and a miracle of truth. Stopping sex trafficking and helping young women thrive is only possible through the education this book provides. And, ultimately, the sad realization that it could have been any of us!’ –Dina Bair Maher, WGN-TV, Chicago, anchor/reporter
Groomed is an enlightening and powerful book that shows you just how condemning words can be to the psyche. While many of us have just one definition of “groomed”, Elizabeth suggests that being groomed is, unfortunately, more universal than we would like to believe.
Due to her personal and professional experiences, Elizabeth has become somewhat of an expert on recognizing manipulation. In Groomed, Elizabeth educates us on the different ways we can be groomed. The most common way people are groomed is through the messages they hear from the people they trust. These messages may be intentionally or unintentionally hurtful, regardless, they change the way we look at ourselves. Because, like it or not, words shape us. However, Groomed shows us that we can reshape our lives through the ways we speak to and treat ourselves. The power is in your words, not anyone else’s.
In Groomed, Elizabeth shares an important message of resilience. While unlearning self-destructive behavior and thoughts or “soul wounds” (as Elizabeth refers to it) isn’t easy, it’s entirely possible through extensive inner work and self-reflection(selah). Groomed gives you a mighty yet gentle push into thinking about how words and your upbringing affect who you are today.
Groomed is sooo real. The honesty in this book helps you become more honest with yourself. Many self-help books spoon feed you what they believe the magical answer to fixing your life is, but Groomed encourages you to find the answer within yourself. Elizabeth Melendez Fisher realizes that no one’s story is the same. Groomed shows you that recognizing and accepting your painful truths of the past is the only way to reshape your future.
Thanks to Lisa from TLC Book Tours for inviting me on this blog tour for Groomed. I received a free advanced reader’s copy of this book from the publisher through TLC Book Tours in exchange for my honest review.